April 26-#100happydays-day 17 “inlaws”

It’s really nice that I get along well with my in laws. I hear about other families and some of the feuds, and it makes me thankful “we all just get along”. 

Of course there are minor issues. Mostly just differences in opinions, but rarely leads to serious problems. It’s also great my husband likes my parents, and I’m an only child, so my parents can get a touch over protective. Still. 

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Thoughts on never having a daughter.

I always wanted to get married and have kids. For most of my 20’s I thought that would never happen, but I finally lucked out with a fantastic man!
I also always saw myself with a daughter. A little girl to dress up and brush her hair. Now that I have two boys, I’m not sure that will ever happen.

When I was pregnant with my first, everyone told me I was having a boy. Deep down I was kind of hoping for a girl though. Maybe it’s because I’m an only child, i was just used to girl stuff. Of course, when that moment came, and I heard my husband say “it’s a boy!!”  and I knew he was healthy, I was so happy! And he was so cute!!

My first photo as a mom

My first photo as a mom

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Michael A few hours old.

I loved having a son! He was so mischievous, yet sweet.

When I was pregnant the second time, everyone said “oh, I hope you have a girl this time!” Yes, I wanted a girl. Balance things out, one of each, all that. I thought to myself, I have a boy, what will I do with another?

So that time came around again, and I heard “its a boy!!”. I was so happy he arrived healthy, and I loved him instantly, but I do admit, thee was a touch of disappointment. Wow, two boys. This guy looked different from my first, but he was pretty darn cute too.

He's here!

He’s here!

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Thomas, 1day old.

I soon learned how amazingly different these two children were. The sex really didn’t matter, each was so unique. I don’t know why I thought my two boys would be the same, and go through each milestone or phase the same way. Their personalities are so different.

Now, a lot of people ask me if we will “try for a girl”. I honestly haven’t decided about a third child. I always thought two was perfect, but now, when I see their uniqueness, I kind of want to meet another little person, and see what they’d bring into my life. Male or Female.

I do feel like I’m missing out a little bit on ‘girly’ stuff, but the more I’ve thought about it I realized maybe I’m meant to be a mom to boys. Maybe I’d have trouble raising a girl.

Recently, at a ‘mom meet up’, I mentioned that I didn’t like baking, didn’t know how to sew, and I was terrible at crafts. One of the other moms commented “good thing you have boys, what the heck would you teach a girl?” Hmmm…

Life is short and fragile.

Recently my cousin was diagnosed with stage 4 non Hodgkin’s lymphoma. What started as a sore swollen calf, it was quickly learned she had lymphoma which had also spread to her kidney.
It was a rough year for her, going through a divorce, going back to work, and raising her two kids.
Being the same age, although living in different cities, we stayed close.
She sent me a text with updates on her situation.

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She died the day before she was to start chemo. Sadly, she didn’t even get to fight the cancer, it spread to other areas within a couple weeks and she died of a blood clot in the lungs. It was quite shocking she died so fast.
I felt so guilty I didn’t text her more. I was planning on sending her a small gift, just to let her know I was thinking of her. Didn’t have the chance. I was going to donate to her “wig fund” which she never even needed.
One more reminder, life is short. I’m going to try to stay in touch with the rest of my cousins. ( even though we were never as close).
I hope I stick to my goal of living for today.

My guys

Here’s a brief intro to the most important people around!
Michael (dec 20, 2011) Thomas ( mar 31,2014)
They drive me crazy. The baby won’t sleep and the 3 year old won’t listen. But I love them.

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